Try the "wardrobe test." The wardrobe test, according to dating coach Logan Ury, can help you figure out how you really feel about the person you’re with. The idea is simple. Just ask yourself: If your partner were an item of clothing in your closet, what would they be? Your gut reaction to this question can reveal a lot about your relationship.
For example, if you think of them as a cozy sweatshirt or your favorite pair of jeans, that’s a good sign. If you see them as an old T-shirt you won’t wear out of the house or a sweater that used to be comfy but is now itchy, those would be red flags. "Generally, it bodes well for your relationship if your answer is a favorite item in your closet or anything that keeps you warm or protected," says Logan. "And it’s worrisome if your item involves something itchy, uncomfortable, or that you wouldn’t be excited to be seen in."