My man wants to audit me! You read it correctly. He has been working with me to get my finances in order. My bills were out of wack, but I am back on track now. What we discussed in the beginning is that he would help me to determine what I should pay and how to get caught up, where I could save, etc. He has helped others with their finances by giving them guidance, I thought it would be okay. Things started off alright. When I would get paid, I had certain amounts I would set aside, bills I would pay, and before I knew it, I was out of the hole. It felt great. I wasn't supposed to use my bank card, except for bills I pay online. Other than that, I would get cash for the week. I did get off track with that after a while, but my bills are still paid and I have still saved some. Every now and again, he will ask how am I doing. Mind you, he is not paying any of my bills, nor has he paid off anything. In the past, he has helped a few times, but there is no consistent paying of anything. I have done all the work on my own. One weekend when we were not speaking (had a little spat), things went sour. I used my card, spent extra money, went shopping, etc. We talked later and were fine. Some time has gone by now, and we were planning to have a fun weekend. The next thing I knew, I got a message from him telling me that before we leave for the weekend, I need to provide the last three months of my bank statements, receipts for all bills I have paid in the last three months, cash I have saved for the last three months and all of the bills I currently owe because he is going to do an audit! I am appalled!! I know he is a stickler for finances, but he does not have the right to "audit" me. We live in separate households. I pay ALL of my bills. We are not married and not even engaged to be married. Now, handling finances is not my strong suit, and I made him aware of that when we first began to see one another. I thought it was only fair to let him know in advance that I had issues in this area so that he could make an educated decision about whether he wanted to get involved with me. I was very transparent. He chose to stay with me regardless. We have had some rough times in this area, but we have worked through them and I am doing so much better than ever before. He seems to think that he is correct in what he is doing. He feels that before he can marry me, I have to have my finances in order. I don't make a whole lot of money, but I have a good job with excellent benefits. I'm not the greatest with finances, but I would never be a burden on anyone. I hardly have any debt; no credit card debt or student loans, or anything like that. All I have is my household bills and a few medical bills I am paying on. I believe if he wants to marry me, this should not be a factor. It's not like I am going to run him in the ground with debt. It is so easy to say I am going to let him go, but the truth is, I am very much in love. It's hard. Other than this foolishness, he is really one of the sweetest, fun, intelligent and solid men I have met. Steve, what is your opinion and advice for this situation?